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My Vagina Feels Like The Mojave Desert

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In a recent article posted in Menopause News, March 31, 2014, LET’S GET CLOSER: DEMYSTIFYING SANDPAPER SEX,  BY Dr. Lauren Streicher MD, it talks about a study published, in February, in the Journal Menopause, where over 4,000 women and their male partners talked about the impact of vaginal dryness and painful sex.  The study surveyed women between the ages of 55-65 years.

As you know, this is a topic very close to my heart. I speak with women and men quite often who, due to painful sex have stopped having intercourse completely. The men I speak with are very understanding about their partner’s circumstances regarding intercourse, but certainly would like to continue the intimacy they both had in the past. And by the way, so do the ladies.

acute-anginaIt is true that as we age, our libido ages too… which can make sex less pleasurable. However, there is a solution, Dr. Greene suggests; a low dosage of testosterone gel, compounded by a compounding pharmacy, will help to stimulate ones libido. (It worked wonderfully for me.)

I believe that a healthy sex life is an essential part of aging gracefully. It keeps us young and it is known to be much healthier for both men and women.

But the truth is that vaginal dryness can make a healthy sex life nearly impossible. So many suffer in silence because they are too embarrassed to talk about it. When they finally do, some of the comments are:

“How can I have a healthy sex life when my vagina feels like I have razor blades inside!”

“How can I be intimate with my husband when my vagina feels like the Mojave Desert!”

“Whenever we try to have sex, penetration causes me to bleed, I feel like my vagina is on fire. I feel all shrunken up!!”

Libido-EDAs if it isn’t enough that we are burdened with the pain of vaginal dryness, many couples suddenly find that their sex life has been hijacked by erectile dysfunction. The shame associated with ED can be debilitating since so few men speak of it. The causes can include low testosterone, certain prescription medications, tobacco use, high blood pressure, to name a few. But there is hope! Just like with vaginal dryness, there is help out there, once the silence is broken. There are many medications, lifestyle changes and in extreme cases there are surgical penile implants that are available.

This aging thing is a bummer, MIDLIFE, MENOPAUSE, AND BEYOND (!!!!), not only do we need to find the right circumstance for intimacy; set the right mood, but now we need the right tools to make it all come together?

It is so important to take the time to make it still feel natural, by creating your own moment. When that moment gets going, the last thing you need, is to be reminded to stop by a cold wet gel. Pulling out that tube of lubricant, applying it, feeling the wetness and coldness and  trying to get your head back to being intimate. That definitely was not for me.

In her article, Dr. Streicher suggested that a more active role needs to be taken in understanding maturing women, sexuality and how aging affects our quality of life. I think that is true for the men in our lives as well!

It has been my mission to bring awareness to both partners and let them know that there are solutions to lack of libido and vaginal dryness that are safe and effective. I created Vaginal Renewal Complex because I know that just because we are getting older and Mother Nature is taking its course, it does not mean that we have to just accept it. I have so many “renewed” women who are experiencing a new found freedom by relieving themselves of this debilitating process.

But please understand that not all women are sexually active, but can still suffer from vaginal dryness for many different reasons. Vaginal Renewal Complex is designed for all types of conditions that cause vaginal dryness not just sexual comfort.

My Little Secret:  Thank you Dr. Streicher for helping to address these important issues.  I look forward to reading your book Love Sex Again….And please try Vaginal Renewal Complex.  It will help restore vaginal comfort naturally.

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Author: Olga Cohen

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