Over the last year I have written quite a few blogs about my Mom.  She was a great example for me when I was growing up.  Mom and Dad now live in an assisted living home and they still maintain their true love for each other every day. Dad still has a sharp mind at 97, but my Mom has dementia.  It’s so sad to see this once self-confident woman become completely dependent on us to help her with the simplest of things. I always say:

“Dad is her mind and Mom is his strength.”

My Mother My Friend, Mother and Daughter
I was talking about them to my daughter and said, I can’t imagine how I would feel if I became Grandma.  That’s the worst of it, is that she is aware that her mind is not the same.

A few days after our conversation, Melissa (my daughter) sent me this beautiful letter that she had come across on Facebook.  I think it is worth sharing:


“My dear girl, the day you see I am getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all try to understand what I’m going through.

If when we talk, and I repeat, the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “you said the same thing a minute ago”…Just listen, please.  Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.

When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me.  Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a little girl?

When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way…remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day…the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t…don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant.  Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand, the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

When those days come, don’t feel sad…just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

I will cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared.  With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you.  I just want to say, I love you…my darling daughter.”

I can’t imagine saying this any better…

My little secret; be kind and love every moment with your Mom.  I am one of the lucky ladies to still have a beautiful and spirited mother who when she holds my hand, I still feel the gentleness of her touch and the warmth of her soul.

Olga Cohen is the CEO of Grohen Technologies and the Creator of Vaginal Renewal Complex™. She has helped numerous women find safe and effective natural treatments for vaginal dryness, a common symptom of menopause.